A Man With True Grit

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August 2015, Mark in rehab

Here we are again at a rehab center, eleven days after surgery. Since I’ve watched Mark battle rehabilitation for more than twenty-four years, the pain is both heartbreaking and tiresome. It’s difficult not to question why it has to be so hard and painful. One of the benefits of being in a care facility is that we are surrounded by people with similar struggles. Most of the patients here are overcoming a knee or hip replacement, but a few have an even more serious struggle like bone cancer or a stroke. As I get to know each patient here, my heart goes out to them and as I watch their progression in conquering their health challenges, I rejoice. We are surrounded by people with true grit.

Mark was not a perfect candidate for a total hip replacement so he had several tests to determine whether it was a possibility. Every test revealed a new problem such as severe degenerative disc disease, osteoporosis and scoliosis of the spine and osteopenia (a precursor to osteoporosis) of the hips. The results were discouraging and overwhelming. The bone density test reveal he was a high risk for a break. What should we do and when do we give up? These two questions took months to answer.

The orthopedic surgeon gave Mark only a 50% chance of the surgery improving his condition. Mark replied, “I’ve beaten lesser odds,” and decided to go through with a total right hip replacement despite the risks. Mark’s continuing optimism and determination for betterment is one of the reasons why I love and support him so much. He’s taught me you don’t have to be a cowboy to be a man with true grit, which has become my favorite way to describe him.

If you’re old enough, you may remember John Wayne in the 1969 movie, True Grit. There was a remake in 2010, but I preferred the original western of a totally fearless, one-eyed, pot-bellied U.S. Marshal, Rooster Cogburn, who was hired by a determined young girl, Mattie Ross to find the man who murdered her father and fled with the family savings. Rooster was cantankerous and drank too much, but his shooting ability was flawless. He was known as a man with true grit.

The scene that keeps running through my head is the one where Rooster rides his horse into an open area and faces alone a gang of four outlaws he’s been tracking down for days.

One of the outlaws shouts at Rooster, “What’s your intention? Do you think one against four is a dog-fall?”

“I mean to kill you in one minute or see you hang in Fort Smith at Judge Barker’s convenience. Which one will it be?” Rooster haulers back.

“I call that bold talk for a one-eyed, fat man.”

True Grit“Fill your hands…” Rooster yells while putting the horse’s bridle reins in his mouth, drawing his rifle in one hand and his shotgun in the other as he charges towards the four men, shooting with both guns.

Despite the unlikely odds, he does take all four down.

This comparison may seem a little irreverent or uncouth, but it’s what goes through my mind as I watch Mark combat rehab. He boldly confronts each challenge using every ability he has. He fearlessly fights for improvement and gives little thought to it taking him down. He is indeed a man with true grit. However, I must add he’s much better looking than Rooster Cogburn and his language, manners and conduct are nicer too.

We all have something to overcome and having true grit helps us get through it. Right now I’m surrounded not by cowboys, but warriors with true grit and I’m particularly fond of the one I’m married to. Just like Rooster did, I believe Mark will come out the winner too.

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All Is Well

Mark had a hip replacement surgery yesterday. This decision of whether to have the surgery or not has been weighing heavily on our minds since January. Over the past several months he has had many test to help us decide if he was a good candidate for the surgery. The surgeon was not sure and was worried that he might break a bone in the surgery due to his osteoporosis. After Mark’s bone scan he asked the doctor if he was “dense enough.” We had a good laugh at Mark’s humor and then he told us he was a high risk for a break. We decided to take the risk and it has felt like a huge elephant ride waiting for the surgery date. On day it’s on and the next day we’re swayed to the other side and maybe it’s off.  We were happy to finally slide down the elephants trunk and get off of that ride.

All went well and the surgeon is so pleased and is as relieved as we are. Now we face three days in the hospital and at least three weeks in rehab where the hard and painful work will begin. Unfortunately, Mark will have to do this again in October for the left hip to get full benefit. Mark jokes that he’s a basket case—because he has a basket full of complicated health issues. I love this man and his humor. He has the ability to make me laugh even, or most importantly, under stressful times. I feel so fortunate to have him in my life!

Just what I needed to remember today.
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