Go For The Gold

Kevin PearceThe Olympics are packed with hopefuls, and I love to hear their stories of overcoming obstacles while pushing the boundaries in pursuit of their dreams. The passion for their sport and years of dedication to training is motivating. A week before the Olympics started, I watched a documentary, The Crash Reel, which gave me a new perspective on the snowboarding events.

Do you remember the snowboarder Kevin Pearce?  He expected to be the gold medal contender for the United States in the men’s halfpipe in the 2010 Winter Olympics. On December 31, 2009, he was critically injured in Park City, Utah, during a training run. He struck his head above the left eye halfway down the pipe doing a double cork. He was flown to the University of Utah Hospital and was in critical care for nearly a month, shattering his dreams for the gold in Vancouver, Canada.

Shaun White won the gold that year, while Kevin was immersed in the hardest, most meaningful training of his life. Once stabilized enough to move, Kevin was taken to Craig Hospital, a center which specializes in traumatic brain injuries located in Denver, Colorado. For the next four months he worked harder and focused entirely on relearning to do the simple tasks of daily living before he could move back home with his family in Vermont.

Kevin Crash ReelThe Crash Reel, recounts the ambitious rise of Kevin and the support of an extraordinary family confronted with a devastating injury. Kevin is the youngest of Simon and Pia Pearce’s four sons. His brothers, Andrew and Adam are also snowboarders. David, who has Down syndrome, snow skis in the Special Olympics. Their story is inspiring as they come together to help Kevin re-discover himself and find purpose and meaning in the snowboarders lost dreams. I appreciated this family for allowing the cameras in his hospital room and in their home to share the intimate details of the recovery process. The documentary captures vulnerable moments as Kevin reconciles his new life post-injury with the snowboarding superstar he was before.

In 2008, Kevin was the first athlete in X Games history to compete in three medal events in one day and he won medals in all three in Aspen, Colorado. Even as a young child he was entirely focused on snowboarding and he couldn’t imagine life without it. After the accident, he was determined to ride on the snow again. His family and doctors tried to discourage him from doing so. Because of his short-term memory problem, it was a constant battle. Kevin states now that the brain injury was hard for him to understand because he couldn’t see it, nor did he have any memory of the tough recovery. When Kevin reviewed the recordings of his accident, he said he’d had worse falls and came out okay, so he couldn’t understand the concern. The neurologist told him he had several concussions leading up to the one that caused a coma, and one more blow to his head could cause death. While most wouldn’t be willing to share such a difficult experience on film, this family didn’t shy away from the opportunity.

kevin-pearce-2 years post TBIKevin resolved to push the limits and return to what he called his “true love.” Almost two years after the accident he strapped on his board and took his first ride with his friends and two brothers by his side. The movement made his vision double. He lacked the coordination for even a small jumped. In many ways, he said, he didn’t feel like himself on a snowboard.

Kevin finds comfort in a quote from Eckhart Tolle, “What could be more futile, more insane, than creating inner resistance to something that already is?”

Likewise, Kevin said, “This brain injury is. This happened to me, so creating inner resistance to this is completely insane because I cannot take it back. I cannot change what happened to me and I never will be able to change December 31, 2009. That day happened.”

Kevin love your brain

Kevin has a new passion now, Love Your Brain Foundation. It was born from the documentary, The Crash Reel. His mission is to educate about concussions and other types of brain injuries, along with transforming physical and emotional well-being through yoga, and building a community through brain health experiences. It’s apparent to me that while Kevin’s life is different now, somethings haven’t changed. Kevin’s still determined and focused. He still gives his all to his passion and never settles for average. Check out the website, it’s impressive. http://www.loveyourbrain.com/

Kevin may not have a gold medal from any Winter Olympics hanging in his trophy case, but his comeback story is real and relatable to all kinds of survivors and caregivers. It’s been a tough journey, but he has found peace and acceptance with his new life, which I believe makes him a first place winner.

I admired the Olympic candidates. Their determination and perseverance for their beloved sport are inspiring. The opening ceremony was enthusiastic, filled with anticipation for the games to begin. The closing ceremony was pleasurable with a flicker of melancholy. The stories of triumphs in between were most rewarding and why I loved to watch the participants. When the flame was extinguished, it felt like the end of an epic holiday. The sadness comes from knowing it will be a while before we’re going to enjoy that kind of excitement and inspiration again. However, their lives and ours go on. Day by day we each have a deep sense of purpose, along with struggles to overcome for advancement. My take away from this year’s Olympians and Kevin Pearce’s story is, embrace where life takes me, while striving to do, and be the best I can. We should all go for the gold, even when life changes our dreams.

Thanks Pyeongchang for being a great host to the world. I wish the love and unity could last forever!

 

 

 

Strength in Numbers

Being StrongThe Winter Olympic Games are upon us and it is evident there are countless hours in many years of training for the athletes to compete. The hosting city and country plan and prepare four years and it’s a proud time for them as they show off their beauty and hospitality to the world. It’s sensational to watch it all unfold. Various athletes from all over the world coming together in Sochi to do their very best, showing their strengths and abilities.

It’s obvious there are many people behind the athletes as they prepare for the games. Besides family and friends that encourage and help them, there are coaches, technique specialists, apparel consultants, etc. All have the same goal and vision for the athlete to succeed. They’re amazing to watch and usually you’re only seeing one person competing, but in reality there’s a team of people standing behind the one athlete you’re watching. All making their success possible.

We all need others to succeed in our endeavors. No one makes it alone. It’s wonderful to have family and friends help and encourage us. They hear and see us with their hearts. It’s also beneficial to build relationships with others who share your goals, stress and struggles. They hear and see us with their experience. A meaningful and comforting way to boost one another. This is my goal with Uniting Caregivers. Together we can learn and improve our abilities. Sharing our stories and how we cope encourages and gives us strength.

Support groups are formed for most anything you are dealing with; addiction, brain injury, cancer, divorce, epilepsy, mental health, stroke and the list goes on. Mark and I have benefited from the Brain Injury Support Groups and the Epilepsy Support Group. We have learned much and it’s comforting to be with people who know and share our experience.

Tomorrow night a friend and caregiver of a brain injury survivor, Laura Nordfelt, is starting a new Caregiver Support Group in Murray, Utah. The meeting is in conjunction with the Brain Injury and Stroke Survivor Meeting from 7-8 pm. It will be held at the Intermountain Medical Center, 5121 South Cottonwood Street, Building 6, Classroom 8.  The caregivers and survivors will meet first together and then split into two separate groups. The facilitator, Lynn Anderson, who has a MS in Social Work will meet with the caregiver’s group.

Support groups are a wonderful way to share and improve your experience. I encourage all to Goggle “support groups” in your area to find the help and support you might need. There is strength in numbers!